Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Is Ageing Mind Over Matter?

Time moves too damn quick.  What brought it home to me is that today my 14 year old Chicken worked her first shift at McDonald's.

The reason this is so momentous to me is that I feel that once a person starts working for a wage, they have started to move away from their childhood and are almost a full-on adult.  Scary stuff when it's your daughter taking orders and being responsible when YOU still feel about 16 most of the time.  Does this mean I'm all grown up now?  Nah!  I'll act the part when I need to but most of the time I feel exactly the same as I did when I was a teenager.  Except for the times I look in a mirror, see a photograph of myself or try to do anything physical of course.

There is a little method in my madness - if I feel young in my head, maybe my body (or mind for that matter) won't get old.  And isn't it more fun to act like a 16 year old than a 47 year old?

I would have loved to have known what age my mother was feeling as she neared the end of her life, but unfortunately her dementia prevented that.  Did she still feel like a teenager in her head while sitting in a nursing home looking at those elderly people around her?  She certainly had a young attitude when she was well, in fact so much of a party girl that the start of her downfall was breaking her hip at age 65 on the dance floor at the local club's Rocky Horror Picture Show tribute!

So did she just want to escape the bed and go out dancing again or did she feel like the woman in the news this week that thought she'd had enough and it was time to depart with a bit of dignity. I think if she was anything like me there would be no way that she wanted to go out without fighting tooth and nail to the end and throwing a big party with lots of dancing.  Just don't play the Time Warp.

Joining up with the rhythmic Essentially Jess for IBOT!

9 comments:

  1. Your mum sounds like she was very cool. Ageing has been on my mind too this week. Time seems to be flying by and my body seems to be falling apart under me!!!

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    1. She was pretty cool, in a angry and bitter way but lots of fun sometimes! Maybe we just need to stop reminding ourselves how old we actually are.

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  2. I am 37, but.. I still feel around 22. I hope it stays like that. I wonder, my Grandma will be 94 this year, I will be seeing her in a few weeks I am going to have a chat to her about this!
    #teamIBOT

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    1. Would love to find out what she says. Interview post maybe?

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  3. I'm 47 too but often only feel like I am about 20 (except after I have been running and then I mostly feel like I am about 100 !!!)
    Your Mom sounds like a real party girl - making sure she enjoyed life to the full.
    Have a great day !
    Me
    #IBOT visitor

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  4. People have been asking me how it feels to be 30, and I say, exactly the same as 29. Or 26, or 19, which are the ages I usually feel. My mum often says she doesn't feel older in her head, and gets frustrated by her body letting her down.
    I don't think I'll grow old gracefully. I want to be like your mum, and go down on the dance floor. :)

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  5. I feel you all the way. My youngest is 20 working and in Uni. MY eldest... and this was the real eye-opener.. turned 30 last August. Now THAT is a milestone that made me remember that I am in my 50s not 15. But what the hell, I have lived life and it was worth it.

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  6. Becci you are unstoppable. I am feeling the eldest pulling away too - and it's different to the past few years. Not just pulling, but actually moving towards something. Sigh. This is when some mums go and have another baby. (Not me.)

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    1. Not me either. That's why I bought a dog - he'll never leave me or send me texts that he hates me (no thumbs).

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